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The secret to feeling good about yourself

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I think I’ve stumbled upon a major secret to feeling good about yourself. And by major secret, I mean it’s always been hidden in plain sight. It’s directly in contrast to our primal survival wiring, but it’s something proven over and over again in social experiments and probably in our very own experiences. If you

Things I didn’t tell you about my eating disorder

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Sometimes talk is cheap. Sometimes talk is exactly what is needed. A secret that you’ve carried for a long time, can start to weigh you down, tear you down at the edges. Because there’s so much shame surrounding it, so few willing or able to listen to it. “It must just be me. I wish

Who were you before the world told you who you should be?

Who were you before the world told you who you should be? Featured Image

“If women spent more time… focusing on how to use all their energy to solve some of the world’s problems, if they spent a tenth of the time thinking about those things than they do thinking about their weight, I mean, I think we’d solve all the world’s problems in a matter of months.” ~

Everything will be great once I have abs

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I blamed my body for all my problems. Sometimes I felt a deep sense of emptiness, a hole, and it was a relief to pin that discomfort on something tangible. THAT’S what’s wrong with me. I don’t have abs. All these inner conversations began small. A joke, an offhand comment, something my mum or dad

The most important piece of advice ever

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“Confidence isn’t walking into a room and thinking you’re better than everyone else. It’s walking in, not having to compare yourself to anyone at all.” ~ Unknown Perhaps the single best piece of advice for me, ever. You see, I’m a very insecure person, worried about what others think of me and constantly terrified of

Why I felt bad about my c-section, but now I don’t

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The belly is a sensitive area for a woman. We have the opportunity go through pregnancy and giving birth – miraculous and amazing and beautiful and blah blah blah. But for many of us it’s not an easy journey. Often made more difficult by the thoughts in our heads and the opinions floating around. My

That time I got over my saggy baby belly

That time I got over my saggy baby belly Featured Image

That time I got over my saggy baby belly
It was no big deal.
At some stage, you begin to value yourself for more than your appearance,
And the fixation on image becomes decentralized, kind of weakened.

It was never about the result

It was never about the result Featured Image

“I’ll feel so much better once I lose the weight” “Once I can do 10 pull-ups I’ll feel strong” “When I achieve_____ (result), I’ll feel_____ (positive emotion/validation)” Translation: Where I am right now is not good enough, but it will be good enough once I reach this result. We never put much focus on the

“You look great!” is a dangerous comment

“You look great!” is a dangerous comment Featured Image

No doubt it’s said with great intentions, but it won’t work for everyone. The mind is a resilient but fragile creation. It can bear a thousand scars, yet get out of bed each day. But sometimes one open wound can throw a person, head first, down an abyss of complete shut-down. I don’t try to

Humanity: it’s not skin deep

Humanity: it’s not skin deep Featured Image

When I suggested that we ought to be more mindful about commenting on other people’s appearance (saying things like “you look great” or “you look good”, because we don’t really know what’s going on underneath), I got some feedback saying “What? We’re not allowed to compliment each other?” Which really surprised me because – do